Friday, February 18, 2011
What does a healthy family look like?
Each member of the family is valued and accepted for who he or she is. There is regard for individual characteristics.
Each person is allowed to operate within his or her proper role. A child is allowed to be a child and adult is an adult.
Members of the family care for one another, and they verbalize their caring and affirmation.
The communication process is healthy, open and direct. There are no double messages.
Children are raised in such a way that they can mature and become individuals in their own right. They separate from Mom and Dad in a healthy manner.
The family enjoys being together. They do not get together out of a sense of obligation.
Family members can laugh together, and they enjoy life together.
Family members can share their hopes, dreams, fears and concerns with one another and still be accepted.
A healthy level of intimacy exists within the home. Can I add my own pointer here? Healthy families pray together; dinner, bedtime or whenever. This builds family itimacy, allows members to share what's in their hearts, and displays a dependence and need for God.
This weekend my family will be laughing and enjoying life together (a healthy characteristic) as we take a trip to a mountain cabin for some sledding, rest and relaxation. It will be a perfect time to sit back and examine what we’ve done right and think of ways to improve where we’ve fallen short. It is never too late … there’s always room to grow and work on creating a healthier family!