Tiger Wood’s affairs were disappointing news; marriages everywhere leaned in to hear what went wrong. I watched a show, Good Morning America, interviewing a psychologist discussing infidelity. Tossing around the reasons why folks have affairs and lie to their spouses, the psychologist said something that stuck like gum on my shoe. It is a quote I keep in my mental back pocket along with everything else.
“If you don’t want your mate to take a lover, then be a lover.”
1. sexual partner
2. somebody having a love affair
3. somebody who is devoted to or adores a particular something
When I think of the word L-O-V-E-R, I crave more of definition number three, while my husband wants definition number one. Between us, we attempt number two. It is not easy. Being married almost sixteen years, I realize the challenge in being a lover to your spouse might evoke a distant, foggy memory. Change that. Start by action or words depending on who you married. Once you do, one small spark might start a fire. Maybe not, but isn’t it worth a try?
And to think I stumbled on this quote because Tiger kept lovers all over the place. Despite the let down in his behavior, I took away something positive. Thanks, Tiger! Hubba. Hubba.