Monday, March 8, 2010

The Big 6 Great Datexperiment

We feel like old married guinea pigs. It is thrilling.

The Great Datexperiment is one date a month that revolves around one of the Married Life’s Big 6 essentials. We were given a sealed envelope, through our church, and told not to open it until our date officially started. The envelope sat in my cluttered car for a month and we forgot about it until yesterday, when we received the second date envelope. We were behind schedule. As luck would have it our kids were gone all afternoon, setting the stage for The First Great Date which was focused on romance. May I share the highlights and maybe even inspire your marriage? This was an amusing and unusual afternoon.

It’s the Little Things
One step was my husband had to incorporate three suggested pet names into the date conversations. These names included Bambie, Eye Candy, Cowgirl, Mamacita, Gangsta Baby, Magic Princess or Honey Bunches of Oats. In turn, I had to pat him on the can at least two times before the date was over. Our real-life version of this step is that my husband calls me Critter and I flick him on the head often.

Food for Thought
We had to pick from a list of questions and answer four. It was insightful because we don’t discuss this sort of stuff regularly...who does?
-When we were dating I tried to impress you by_______.
-What is the best date or trip we have ever been on?
-If we could plan vacation just the two of us, where would it be?
-I get a kick out of watching you________.
Our real life version goes like this: Can you wash my whites? You kicked me in bed last night.

Picture This
This next step was a cute one. With our camera phone, we had to take a picture of the two of us and use the picture as cell phone wallpaper. Our real life versions were my husband had the standard wallpaper that comes with T-Mobile and I had an adorable photo of our two boys. Not anymore.

Over lunch we chewed on questions:
-Would you rather take a one-week $5000 vacation or go on five different long weekends that cost $1000 each?
-Would you rather eat and never gain weight or speed and never get caught? No surprise, we both went for overeating.

Then we went on to digest which of the five love languages is the most important to each of us. There are Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch or Acts of Service. More questions followed surrounding love languages. Our real life version: Who knew there were Love Languages?

The Thought is ALL that Counts
This was our favorite part. We had to select a store (we chose the $.99 store) and buy each other a $2 gift. Separated, we had ten minutes to purchase it and meet backup, then exchange gifts and tell each other why we made our selections. I debated over nine different items. It was tough only having two bucks to spend. One gift I decided on was a rock carved with the word “Harmony.” Imagine our laughter when he gave me my gifts and one was the exact same rock, but with the word “Peace”. He also bought me bulbs to plant, candles, and his own rock that reads “Wisdom.” You can never have too many inspirational rocks lying around your house.

The date ended with selecting a place for dessert. Or daters could forego the dessert and go to a secluded place and kiss in the car. We both were stuffed with Mexican food leaving us no choice but to act like hormonal teenagers. Let’s just say it felt awkward driving around a park, looking for a private place to smooch. I felt embarrassed, too old to be doing this sort of thing. Our Honda parked, we made out. Strange and exciting. It only takes a spark to get a fire going.

If this sounds like something you and your Honey Bunches of Oats would like to be part of, go to

I wonder what Date #2 will be like. Hubba, Hubba!

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Very cool--he calls you Critter and you flick him in the head... marriages made in Heaven are those where you make each other laugh.... I am blessed to still be laughing, too:)